What an amazing day of singing and being inspired by Per Bristow in Sydney!
The biggest take home messages were using fear, frustration and failures to learn and grow towards your goals, and letting go of the result, instead focusing on the process. Often this leads to a much better outcome anyway, and even if it doesn't, celebrate that you showed up and did it, learn what you can do differently and go again. If you can do this you might take a little longer to reach your goal, but you'll like have longer-lasting success using this approach.
And of course in the Universes synchronicity, when I met up with my kids for lunch, my oldest was disappointed in herself because she went on a roller coaster for the first time, and clung to her little sister crying all the way down. With Per's words ringing in my ears, we could turn the experience into a positive one for her - even though she was scared she did it anyway!
An amazing achievement for anyone, and something most adults need to be reminded of - celebrate your progress, celebrate your effort, reward yourself every time you face your fears and do it anyway. You will grow so much more through that than the end results.
Have a great weekend everyone! Xx
On Friday I dropped my kids at school and headed to the gym. Before starting my workout I ducked into the loo. And wouldn't you know it - someone had done a #2 and hadn't flushed.
My first reaction was anger - seriously how hard is it to flush? And what if someone thought the stench was mine? And then I remembered that I'm trying to focus on the lessons and signs that are leading me to live a more empowered and enlightened life.
And then I saw the humour in this smelly message from the Universe. This wasn't my mess - just flush it and let it go!
How often do we take on other people's 'stuff' as our own? How often do we react from fear or anger rather than being in the moment and going within and recognising what it is we are actually reacting to? Why do we let one small annoyance dictate the direction the rest of our day will take?
So I flushed it, did what I needed to do while enduring the previous odours (I'm a Nurse, this really isn't an issue), I laughed at the message I had received (if it's not your issue let it go), I was grateful for a lesson learnt (notice the signs, be present in the moment, don't sweat the small stuff, don't react in fear of what other people will think or assume about you...), I did my work out and got on with my day, positive and optimistic for the day ahead, and I ended up having a great day.
Before you go to sleep tonight, check in with yourself. What are you holding on to that's not your issue? What are you reacting to that's actually not the real issue? What can you let go of? And what signs did the Universe send you today?
Recently I was visiting my Nan in her nursing home. There was a lady there playing the piano accordion and singing a lot of old songs, and it was amazing to see several of the residents singing along.
Many of them with dementia or Alzheimer's, that have lost the ability for attending to daily activities and functions, were able to recall the words and sing along! Even those that weren't singing were smiling or clapping.
Music is a universal language and a beautiful way to communicate and bring people together. Music touches your soul. How often do you hear a song and it takes you back to a moment in time? That song you first slow danced to with a boy at a school dance? The songs you listened to on your first road trip with your girlfriends? The song at your wedding or a song played at a funeral of someone you loved?
Music can take you back in an instant, and it can bring people back in an instant, even if only momentarily.
We played this song at my Uncles funeral many years ago, and every time I hear it I stop what I'm doing and think fondly of my Uncle John and the amazing man he was.
What song is meaningful for you?
Relationships are like a jewellery box.
The box is empty in the beginning, and both people bring a few issues, beliefs, past experiences or 'baggage' to the relationship - a few necklaces in the jewellery box.
There's plenty of space in the box and it's easy to separate the necklaces. But as time goes on, more and more necklaces get thrown in to the jewellery box. You might notice they're starting to get tangled and you should probably spend some time sorting them out, but life's busy and other issues take priority. You know it will take a little while to sort. It will be messy, frustrating and time-consuming. And maybe you just don't have the time or energy for it right now.
But before you know what's happened, the box is full of necklaces, all tangled and intertwined and the box is starting to break. At this point you realise you really need to sort things out, and you try to untangle the necklaces. But it's difficult to tell where one ends and the next begins. You might find one end of a necklace that you can get a hold of and try to free, but the harder you pull on one necklace the tighter the knots around the others become. The more frustrated and angry you get, the more strain you put on the jewellery until inevitably they start to break.
Eventually you might decide the box is too broken to repair. And when you look at the mess of all the tangled and broken necklaces you try to pinpoint the one thing that caused the break. Which is the one necklace you can blame?
But truth be told there wasn't one necklace at fault. It was years of adding more and more to the box, not taking the time to sort them out, just assuming the box could take more and more, year after year.
And sometimes there is just so much 'stuff' in the end, it's impossible to sort it out. But you realise that while the box is broken, while you cannot fix it or no longer want to, you can salvage a few pieces. You don't need to find something to blame, but recognise the whole beautiful mess for what it is.
You can love the broken box, but you don't need to keep it or mend it. You don't need to keep unpacking it. You can be grateful for it, and choose to move on. And hope you've learned a really important lesson.
Don't assume it will all be ok, even when the cracks start to show. Sort things out as they happen - don't even let them make it into the box if you can avoid it. Take the time to treat the things most precious to you with love and respect. And don't take anything for granted.
Because one day you might look back and see past all the mess, to those original two necklaces, that just needed a little more care, love and attention.